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Category: Personal Growth

Keeping Space For Joy In The Chaos

Here’s what I didn’t tell my dear friend who came with her family to visit for the day, when she said how well it seemed I was doing in this season of life. That I used my flatiron (yes, the one I use on my hair) to fix…

What Is A Fair Prayer To Pray?

I think some of my prayers aren’t fair. They are not reasonable to ask of God. By way of giving a few examples of the kinds of prayers I mean… Is it fair to pray for help on a test if you don’t study? Is it fair…

Redirecting The Game Of Expectations

We had the most stimulating date yesterday. My husband and I used our kids’ nap time to assign responsibilities. We sat together, listed everything that needs to be done to run our household and designated his or my name by each point. Here’s why we did it: Expectations. We…

The Dance Of What Matters Most

The body moves out ahead of the feet, then the feet catch up. There is an embracing and then a release. Emotion is high. Heads move back and forth, legs kick and flail with intention. Twists in spot, a dip. This is a dance characterized by sudden movements that might…

Secret Mentors That Garden Life

I have a growing, lifelong list of secret mentors. So secret, they may be entirely oblivious to the rank they hold in my personal hall of fame for those who have, together, radically shaped my life. Certainly family has shaped me, as a good spouse, parents and family members do…

A Flash of Raspberries

Welcome to an evening on the front line of my life at present. Here is how it all goes down. First, divide and conquer with my hubby to get two little ones to bed, both of them hopefully asleep by 7:30 PM. Then, start the second shift of the…

This Is My Somewhere

Princess Jelly Bean and Escape to Sweethaven were among my first self-published titles. Yes, I wrote about fairy tale candy and a world full of animated pastries. The why of such a fixation is fodder for another post. These stories were, after all, much more mature than an earlier…